Leave black women out of it.


We live in a world where people are now able to date whomever they want without fear of legal persecution and that’s dope as hell. Loving V. Virginia was a monumental supreme court decision that opened the door for people to just love who they love regardless of race and while interracial dating is not my thing, for reasons that probably require it’s own post, I’m happy that people have the choice. It’s been 52 years since that decision and while necessary, in 2019 I have a bone to pick with some of you…

You might already have an idea of who I’m referring to so let me confirm- yes, I’m talking about some black men who date white women. And I know, I know, this topic has been talked about over and over again but stick with me here. If you’re a black woman, odds are you’ve encountered a black man who only dates white women (and no that in and of itself is not what this is about) and for some reason, in their need to let everyone and they mama know, they berate black women in the process. 

Y’all know the scenario, you’re out with your girls and one of you starts to get cozy with a guy and he brings his group of friends over. One of them, loudly proclaims his proclivity for “snow bunnies,” not that anyone asked but okay, whatever, right? You may have rolled your eyes due to the sheer randomness of the comment but who could blame you? So, you start to have a conversation with one of the other guys, but Mr. “Scream It From The Mountain Tops” cuts in with “See that’s why I don’t date black bitches, y’all always got an attitude and rolling your eyes. You’re just jealous that white women are replacing you.” Change the scenario from in real life to online and maybe he adds in how “aggressive, masculine or too independent” black women are while saying that white women “listen, are easier to control, are feminine and will give him pretty mixed babies.” This type of thing happens a lot whether you want to admit it or not.

Look, imma need for some of y’all to stop acting like we don’t see you putting white women on the top of the dating hierarchy, seeing them as a way to achieve status, to phase out the dark skin that you have (but somehow find unattractive in women)by giving you kids with jussttt a touch a melanin and using them to excuse and double down on your own internalized anti-blackness.

The same anti-blackness society uses to make black women AND men seem more violent, less attractive and all-around less than; especially the darker you are. It’s hella interesting that at the first chance, some of you will use the same ideologies used against you to knock black women and position yourself closer to the status quo.

As a meme I just saw said, date whoever you want but leave black women out of it. Mkay?

janayWhen JanayB isn’t posting memes, scrolling through “wokebook” posts, ordering food and otherwise being your typical millennial, you can find her here destroying white tears and basking in her unapologetic blackness. Get in touch with her at JanayBsays@gmail.com.

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