White gaze, white gays.

I’m not sure if this is the blogging norm, but I don’t really plan out my posts. Sometimes, I have a topic (or a few), that I know I want to write about, and I’ll make a mental note of that – but otherwise, I just usually sit down and…start writing. Except for when there’s pressing news, or an event that I feel needs to be covered (like recently); there’s really no master plan.

But every now and then, my pen and paper ( who am I kidding- my keyboard and stiletto nails ) align. I’ll have a topic already in mind and then something happens that brings it all together. And that’s exactly what happened with today’s post.

I had decided to cover intersectionality. And if you’ve been rocking with me for a while, you might be thinking “AGAIN, Janay?” Yes, again, sis/sib/bruh. But specifically how people get intersectionality all wrong, especially in light of what’s been happening all over the country. Or how someone on one end of the road, who is oppressed in absolutely real ways, can overlook the privilege they have in other areas and shit on (aka assist in the oppression of) people who touch more intersections.

And then Chadwick Moore, a journalist who I’d honestly not heard of prior to any of this, woke-up, probably poured a cup of coffee, saw the ridiculousness of the “all lives matter” crowds, thought “pft, that’s nothing – hold my beer (overpriced coffee?)” and Tweeted:

“I’m sorry, blacks, but you already have a month. Juneteenth isn’t a thing. Don’t colonize our month as well. thanks. Signed, the gays.”

Y’all, I won’t front, I laughed. Hard. Like, you know how you laugh so hard, that your knee rises, to meet your hand for a slap, before you H-town stomp your foot on the ground? Yeahhh, like that. Because the thickness of the rose-colored, white-centered, glasses he has on, is massive. I’m talking, 10 times the depth, of Professor Farnsworth from Futuramas glasses. Thicker than a Dairy Queen Blizzard. THICC, not thick.

Somehow, in less than 134 characters, he showcased why intersectionality is needed and just how much privilege can be blinding.

I mean, where do I even start?? I guess with the beginning.

“I’m sorry, blacks,..”

There is a sordid history that details why calling us “the Blacks or Blacks” is unacceptable. But simply put, it’s loaded. White people have been using it for decades to strip us of our humanity. When used that way, it turns “Blacks” into a noun, instead of an adjective, as it should be. It erases our personhood. A Black? A Black.. what? Black people/person = yes. Blacks = no.

“…but you already have a month.”

Oh? You mean the 28 or 29 days in February, where the entire history of Black people is supposed to be crammed in? Where, according to a lot of educators, our entire history starts and ends with slavery? Where history has been revised and white-washed and watered down to suit the masses? That month.

“Juneteenth isn’t a thing.”

…Juneeteenth, which has been observed since 1867, an entire 153 years, much longer than pride has been celebrated, mind you, isn’t a thing? Truly the only reasonable response to that, is a GTFOH.

“Don’t colonize our month as well.”

Black people haven’t colonized a damn thing from white people or gay people. The opposite happens in abundance though. His use of “our month” is telling, because I don’t know if you know this but um… psst! there are Black gay people too. The fact that he even used colonize, when it’s no secret that in the colloquial sense, AAVE specifically, it is directly used to describe how white people take over shit, is no coincidence.

“Signed, the gays.”

If it wasn’t for Black LGBT people, there wouldn’t even be a pride celebration. The progress (make no mistake there is SO much more work to be done) that has been achieved in regards to LGBT rights, is saturated with the tireless work and sacrifice of Black people in that community. Let us not forget, that Marsha P Johnson is one of the key figures in the Stonewall uprising. That uprising turned June into Pride month, it is why celebrations take place.

There is a reason why Black people and POC, to include those of us that are LGBT, those of us who have disabilities and the entire gambit of the intersectional road, roll their eyes at white gay people when they start talking about oppression. And it’s because of shit like this. No one will discredit the fact that they face discrimination. They absolutely do. But they are still white and enjoy allllllll the privileges that come along with that. And in the case of Chadwick, he also gets to reap the benefits of being a white man. He’s on the intersectional road, but just barely. And the way that he views the world, from the comfort of the white gaze, and from the view of a white gay, proves it.

How you gon’ accuse a group that is significantly more oppressed than yours, of interfering with your group’s celebration, a celebration that the other group spearheaded and is also a part of? A group whose “interference,” is an observance of ending a particular oppression put on them by your group?

This is how.

Babyyyy, the audacity. The absolute caucasity.


When JanayB isn’t posting memes, scrolling through “wokebook” posts, ordering food and otherwise being your typical millennial, you can find her here destroying white tears and basking in her unapologetic blackness. Get in touch with her at JanayBsays@gmail.com.

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